Arranging a Funeral
First Steps To Making Funeral Arrangements
Our Customer Care Team will be available 24 hours a day, 365 days of the year to take your call and answer any questions you have. In the majority of cases, a death will occur while your loved ones are in hospitals, nursing homes, aged care facilities etc. The staff in these facilities will assist you with the first steps and preliminary information. Generally, these facilities will ask upon admittance for you to nominate in advance a funeral home like Kingston Funerals to be contacted at the time of death.
You will also need to confirm if the deceased left a will, and whether any other family members need to be contacted regarding the funeral.
In the case of unexpected or suspicious circumstances surrounding the death the police will need to be notified. Where a doctor isn’t prepared to sign the Death Certificate then the Coroners will become involved and they will need to transfer your loved one into their care.
When a person passes away interstate or overseas, Kingston Funerals will liaise with the appropriate local service providers to ensure all of the correct paperwork and regulations are met.
There are a number of things that happen between your loved one’s passing and their funeral service or memorial service.
We at Kingston Funerals have our own mortuary facilities at 146 Argus Street, Cheltenham and generally this is where your loved one will go when in our care. However, if there are unexpected or suspicious circumstances surrounding the death then they will be transferred to the Coroner’s and then later released to the Funeral Home.
Our Repatriation Department – recognised as the industry leader among Victorian Funeral Directors – has decades of experience in dealing with the added complexity of a death overseas and the task of returning the deceased home to Australia.
Equally, we have extensive experience in repatriating someone who has died in Australia back to their country of origin. This will involve coordination of all documents from coroners, embassies and airlines.
We will also attend to the preparation of the deceased to ensure a dignified presentation should the next-of-kin wish to view on return to the country of origin. Please note that some Travel Insurance Schemes will arrange the repatriation to the country of origin without cost to the family.
Decisions to be made
When it comes to funeral arranging, one of the most significant decisions that will need to be made is whether your loved one will be buried or cremated. Cremation is more cost effective as burial requires the purchase of a grave or an existing grave to be re-opened.
If you are unsure as to which option you would like to select don’t hesitate to contact our staff.
Traditionally families use newspapers to announce a death or advise the date/time/location of a funeral.
In today’s digital world, many families also take to social media to announce a funeral notice, so family and friends can share the details with their own network.
Personalising the Funeral Service
Top 25 Popular Funeral Songs
Explore a special collection of our most popular funeral songs.
- Unforgettable – Nat King Cole
- Tears in Heaven – Eric Clapton
- My Way – Frank Sinatra
- In the arms of an angel – Sarah McLaughlin
- What a wonderful world – Louis Armstrong
- Over the Rainbow – Eva Cassidy
- You raise me up – Josh Groban
- Amazing – Alex Lloyd
- Fly – Celine Dion
- Goodbye my friend – Linda Ronstadt
- Danny Boy – Daniel O’Donnell
- The Lord is my shepherd – John Michael Talbot
- Funeral March – Beethoven
- Don’t Cry Daddy – Elvis Presley
- Fields of Gold – Sting
- Goodbye – Lionel Ritchie
- Sailing – Rod Stewart
- Time to say goodbye – Sarah Brightman & Andrea Bocelli
- Angels – Robbie Williams
Top 20 Most Popular Funeral Poems
Below are the words of 20 of the most popular funeral poems.
- All is Well
- Do not Stand at my Grave
- Farewell my Friends
- Four Candles for You
- Gods Garden
- I am With You Always
- In Memoriam
- Memories in the Heart (Female Version)
- Memories in the Heart (Male Version)
- Memories of You
- Miss Me But Let Me Go
- Remember Me
- The Day You Left
- The Tide Recedes
- Today Is A Gift
- We Remember
- You Can Shed tears That She Is Gone (Female Version)
- You Can Shed tears That She Is Gone (Male Version)
- Decide on the mood you want to adopt, i.e. is it to be serious, light-hearted, conversational etc.
- Make sure you write it out and time how long it is going to take. Type it in larger than normal font size so you can easily read it. Clarify with the family on the duration they would like you to keep to – this will usually be determined by whether you are the principal spokesperson or will others also be recalling their memories. As a guide 5 minutes is ideal.
- Always introduce yourself to the audience and let them know where you fitted in the person’s life.
- Share personal stories and anecdotes.
- Avoid negativity – the funeral isn’t the time to ‘get things off your chest’. A eulogy should be concentrating on celebrating the person’s life and achievements.
- If you are speaking on behalf of others then ask family, friends or colleagues for their recollections and add these to yours.
- Before finalising your eulogy share it with someone close to you and who knows the person being remembered. They will be a great sounding board and their feedback can be invaluable as you do your final edit.
- On the day of the funeral dress appropriately, have a glass of water close-by and have a back-up person available to take-over in case you are unwell or not able to deliver it – this would generally be the Funeral Celebrant, Priest, a close friend or family member.
- Remember that everyone will understand if at any stage you become emotional – just take a deep breath and compose yourself.